Life is what you make it

If you are fortunate and live long enough you will come to know this simple truth, life is unfair. My mother and the original Diva is fond of saying don’t ask “Why Me.?” Because the truth about life is why not you? Life can deal you some tough breaks but everyone has a story to tell and all we can do is make the best of what we are given. Still a raw deal does not mean life owes you a damn thing. As my grandmother, may she rest in peace, used to say “I once was sad because I had no shoes until I met the man who had no feet.” Realize as long as there is breath in your lungs it could always be worse and one thing that never makes anything better for anyone is constant self-pity and whining.

  Don’t get me wrong I know we all have our moments when we have to blow off some steam. If something is really grinding your gears then it is healthy to vent. The problem comes when you start to believe the universe is against you. The universe has more important things to do. Self-pity is a more annoying form of self-absorptions. You’ll be infinitely happier if you just get over yourself. I was once trapped in a prison of my own making. Blaming everyone in my life for their failure to be perfect n my eyes. Fact is no matter how bad you’ve had it there will come a point when you alone will have to face the consequences of your actions.

  So take control of your life. Stop telling yourself why you can’t do things. (Unless of course any of those things involve harming others in any way! Be that physical or emotional) In this great country of ours we are free to feast upon life. So feast! I personally am fond of coming up with reasons why I can’t have what I desire. But what if we spent only a fraction of the time we use for why nots for we cans? There a science to encouraging yourself for if you refuse to begin you cannot possibly win the race. So speak life into your situations. Don’t tell yourself what you cannot do. Some of us have given up and don’t even realize it. I know it is easy to let fear rule you but success is not easy. So encourage yourself, believe in yourself or no one will. In short make life is your bitch and bend it to your will. Get over yourself to encourage yourself.