Changes

  Like most people I have a love hate relationship with change. In some instances I want change. I want my financial status to change for the better. One day I want my marital status to change from single to married. I’d also like to change from blogger, to author, to bestselling author. But there are things in life I don’t want to change. I want my childhood home to stay the same. It’s comforting to know that I can always go back there for a sense of normalcy. Which is tough since we’re a military family so the actual location often changes but it’s a general vibe that I count on. Then there are things I think I want to change but when they do I find I missed the way things used to be.

  For example all through high school and four years after I lived in a small military town in Killeen TX. From the day of my graduation I could think of nothing else but moving. So when my father got orders to move to San Antonio TX. I could not wait to get out of there. So much so that I didn’t bother to prepare for the move in even the basic ways like applying for jobs. I figured it’d be nothing to find a job in telecommunication in a larger a city. Flash forward to six months and I had two part time jobs and still had barely any money.

  I also didn’t count on how much I’d miss my friends and how hard it’d be to find other likeminded people.  So to tally it up, I was without gainful employment, friends, and everything was different. I suddenly hated the city I couldn’t wait to get back to. I learned a valuable lesson. When it comes to change, even the changes you think you want, pace yourself. Understand that in life we must take the good with the bad with EV-ER-Y-THING. Think about it, how many times you have been disappointed. I’m sure it’s too many to count. I’m not suggesting that you lower you expectations, only manage them. At the risk of sounding cliché it’s truly important to hope for the best but prepare for the worst. It doesn’t make you a cynic, just a realist. Fantasies are nice but as adults they’re the a good way to get your bubble burst.