PSA: Standards! Not just for women anymore

We exist in a society with many double standards. For instance men and women are supposed to be equal in this great country of ours. But really women are still judged by their sexual history while men are judged by the size of their… pocket books. These archetypes can be harmful if you happen to want to fit society's’ mold. And let’s face it, you kinda do. No matter if you consider yourself a die hard rebel there are certain comforts that all of us desire. That includes companionship. Helping people find it happens to be a million dollar industry. It’s hard dealing with people in general but the opposite sex can often seem to be speaking a totally different language. So if you’re a man and have ever found yourself utterly confused by us girls I’m here to help you out. I happen to be a girl so I’ll let you in on some rare insight. Unfiltered of course. Let’s begin.

  Lesson one: Spotting gold diggers! First ask yourself, are you rich? If the answer is no this is in no way your problem. AT ALL! If you are not rich and a woman is entertaining you then she is not a gold digger. Even if she were she would have to be very bad at it to not even know the first thing about gold digging, dating rich men.  If a girl you just met doesn’t want to come “chill” or “Kick it” with you at your house or hers off bat, that in no way makes her a gold digger. First off you’re a stranger so it’s only natural that a person chooses to get to know you in a well-lit public place before deciding if she wants to spend time alone with you. Besides a women wants you to show some effort and there’s nothing wrong with that.

   Trust and believe if you happen to be attracted to this particular women understand that she put some effort into attracting you. Those high heels you boys like so much tend to be uncomfortable. No one’s saying you have to be able to pop champagne and ball out to meet a quality women. As a matter of fact that kind of show boating tends to attract only certain types of women.  Not that there is anything wrong with that particular type of women. Don’t sweat it if a women doesn’t want to deal with you because of what you don’t have. Those women just happen to be being honest with themselves about what they want out of life. And if you don’t have a lot of money that’s not you. If this bothers you you’re making the classic mistake of worrying about the people that don’t like you and neglecting the ones that do. Which brings us to our second point.

   Standards: There is nothing wrong with having standards even if others don’t agree with yours. You have to know what you want in a partner as a man. If you don’t you could in for a world of hurt. If you’re a freak you’re probably going to have more problems than you anticipated turning that meek girl out. If you like to fly low-key you may not be able to tame that party girl. Now this doesn’t mean you can’t have a successful relationship with someone who’s different than you. You just have to understand that you won’t be able to change them. Women are often told that you can’t change a man well guys better realize that you can’t change women either.

  That doesn’t mean make snap judgments it actually means get to know who you fucking with. You can do this while taking a walk through a park or sharing a Sunday at an ice cream parlor. All you have to do is make a basic effort to get to know the person you’re interested in. The bonus is that having sex with someone you actually like is way better than sex with random people. It can really cut down the level of fuckery in your everyday life. If you don’t want to be exclusive with someone and just want to smash. Say that! So you begin with being honest with yourself and perfect the art by being honest with others. Either way have some standards not everyone deserves you.

  Besides there is nothing sexier to a women than a man with standards. A man that doesn’t have to jump on the first thing thrown their way. Nothing wrong with saying no. Trust me men of the world, once you realize your worth others will pick on it. Don’t be desperate. You have something unique to offer and several options if you just get out of your own head. Remember guys it’s a dance.