When the going gets tough...
When the going gets tough, the tough get coping!
At least that's how I like to remember this phrase.
It is an inescapable reality that life can be hard and disheartening at times.
Whether you're facing the disappointment of being passed up on a much needed, not to mentioned deserved, promotion or dealing with the agony of a bad heartbreak, there is one thing that separates the survivors from the rest.
The ability to bounce back.
Known by many different names resiliency or emotional hardiness is just that: the ability to bounce back from tough situations.
Everyone gets down every once in a while. That's just a part of the human experience. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Like the old adage says "it's not how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get back up again that matters."
However, getting back up can be hard sometimes. Especially depending on the blow. When dealing with matters of the heart, the pain can be debilitating. Initially, it can be hard to imagine ever moving past your current situation. In those instances, it can be harder than ever to get back to being the you that you were before. In some cases, you may never be exactly the same person again.
Resiliency is a collection of coping mechanisms that make certain individuals better equipped to handle adversity and come out on top.
Like money in the bank, resiliency has be built up over time. Then, like savings, it'll be there when you need it most. When those situations come around that knock you on your ass, and you'll be able to bounce back, stronger than ever!
Some key components to building resiliency include establishing a strong support network, developing goals that are realistic, and keeping things in perspective. Also, try to get in the habit of not taking things personally.
The things that other people do are rarely a direct reflection of who were are or how we've treated them, but rather one of how they feel about themselves. So, try not to internalize when people snub or betray you. Of course it may hurt initially, but getting over this hurdle relies heavily on your ability to look outside of yourself and see the bigger picture. This is about them. So, you do what you need to do to feel better and protect yourself in the future, but don't waste your energy or time blaming yourself for their actions. And definitely don't stick around thinking you can change them.
Instead, you should try to focus on those things that are within your power to change, and work on building a stronger you for tomorrow.
Want to read more about building resiliency? Check out this article: http://jocasey.com/21-ways-to-build-your-resilience/
At least that's how I like to remember this phrase.
It is an inescapable reality that life can be hard and disheartening at times.
Whether you're facing the disappointment of being passed up on a much needed, not to mentioned deserved, promotion or dealing with the agony of a bad heartbreak, there is one thing that separates the survivors from the rest.
The ability to bounce back.
Known by many different names resiliency or emotional hardiness is just that: the ability to bounce back from tough situations.
Everyone gets down every once in a while. That's just a part of the human experience. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Like the old adage says "it's not how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get back up again that matters."
However, getting back up can be hard sometimes. Especially depending on the blow. When dealing with matters of the heart, the pain can be debilitating. Initially, it can be hard to imagine ever moving past your current situation. In those instances, it can be harder than ever to get back to being the you that you were before. In some cases, you may never be exactly the same person again.
So how do we bounce back?
Resiliency is a collection of coping mechanisms that make certain individuals better equipped to handle adversity and come out on top.
Like money in the bank, resiliency has be built up over time. Then, like savings, it'll be there when you need it most. When those situations come around that knock you on your ass, and you'll be able to bounce back, stronger than ever!
Some key components to building resiliency include establishing a strong support network, developing goals that are realistic, and keeping things in perspective. Also, try to get in the habit of not taking things personally.
The things that other people do are rarely a direct reflection of who were are or how we've treated them, but rather one of how they feel about themselves. So, try not to internalize when people snub or betray you. Of course it may hurt initially, but getting over this hurdle relies heavily on your ability to look outside of yourself and see the bigger picture. This is about them. So, you do what you need to do to feel better and protect yourself in the future, but don't waste your energy or time blaming yourself for their actions. And definitely don't stick around thinking you can change them.
Instead, you should try to focus on those things that are within your power to change, and work on building a stronger you for tomorrow.
Want to read more about building resiliency? Check out this article: http://jocasey.com/21-ways-to-build-your-resilience/
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