The other side of 25

It’s been said before and I’ll say it again, I love being a girl, only sometimes it’s not so easy. When it comes to love and success society seems set on holding women to some pretty unreasonable standards. Somehow women are expected to look good from the top of their heads without a hair out of place to their perfectly manicured toes. We must also have perfectly toned and hairless bodies that only emit farts of glitter that smell like roses. And though it’s inevitable for every living creature on this planet, women must never ever age. Especially if she happens to do so without benefit of a husband, any husband, or at least one child. If so she must be miserable. Even in this day and age she could not possibly have any greater ambition than landing herself a husband and popping out some babies.

  No matter what she’s accomplished if she has done neither of these she is worthless or ya know one of those women. She’s so independent that she must want to be her own man. Either that or she must want to wear the pants in the relationship, be a suga mama, or ultimately a lesbian. If not she must be a colossal skank with a big gigantic monster vagina that swallows unsuspecting men whole. Okay perhaps I was being bit drastic. My point is when most of us get to the other side of 25 and happen to be single with no kids the good for yous suddenly turn into what are you waiting for?

   Now at first this is simply annoying but as we notice it happen over and over again perhaps a little seed of panic is planted. Then as time goes on, we hear statistics, notice ourselves aging and that seed may blossom. Only in this article instead of putting meddlers in their place I’d like to help other finely aging foxes like myself learn how to deal with them. Meddlesome people will always be there ladies. Remember opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and they all stink. How about we all make the decision not to let it bother us. Perhaps some of us have felt the things I mentioned in my first two paragraphs but that is not what anyone is actually saying to us. There is no reason to let well-meaning though misguided advice get ya down.

One thing I’ve had to learn as I made the journey from little girl to woman is to get some thicker skin. Life usually doesn’t turn out how we thought it would but that doesn’t mean we can’t be happy. No person or thing is the key to happiness. There are people out there who have everything the heart desires and are still unhappy. So if there is someone in your life trying to convince you that there’s a specific formula for happiness they plain don’t know what they’re talking about.  All of use regardless of age, gender, or color will be thrown for some loops. So we gotta learn to role with the punches. Don’t let others get you so focused on the things you do not have that you forget to enjoy the things you do.

 

There is no reason to listen to negative what ifs because trust me they’re innumerable. So the next time someone tells you to hurry up and find a husband before you get to old instead of envisioning some horrible future where you live alone with 15 cats just ignore them. There are no guarantees in life. You can do everything right and things could still go wrong. You could get married then your husband could die and leave you envisioning that same cat filled future only this time while grieving. Or you could be a good and faithful wife to a man who wasn’t truly ready to settle down and end up branded with the scarlet D of divorce and envision that same cat filled future. Therefore your best bet is really to lead a full and happy life according to Y-O-U.