You is Worrisome...loud mouth bully

  So yesterday we talked about the worrisome one upper also known as the show off and braggarts. We found that they were even harder to deal with than the dreaded crybaby. Finally we’re going to discuss the worst of the worst. They are the most aggravating motherf*ckers that ever fouled this planet. Let’s call them the loud mouth bullies. I’m sure you remember them from your school days and since none of us ever really grow up I’m sure you’ve noticed them in adulthood. They may be your boss, co-workers, and even family and friends. You just know them as the person always on ten. They never bring it down a notch or find their chill so every conversation turns into world war three. It doesn’t even matter whether or not you’re agreeing with them. Their attitude is that you should shut up and let them talk.

   Now the first thing we must understand is that the bullying is not always physical. When someone is hollering at you with their mouth foaming like a dog with rabies it’s easy to feel threatened. In childhood you may have been told to stand up to them and that’s not bad advice. It worked for Craig in ‘Friday’ when Debo was terrorizing the block but what do you do when knocking someone out is not an option. How do we deal with bullies as an adult? What’s so bad about the bully is that they’re a sickening combination of many bad traits. They can be one uppers and even crybabies.

 So before you bust them across the head with a trashcan like Craig did Debo remember that the bully is actually a victim. As a child they were themselves bullied by someone that they should have been able to trust like a parent. Someone who should have been giving them nurturing made them fight for affection and approval. You know how your parents showed you love and encouragement as a given. Well they didn’t get that. Instead they learned to never let anyone try them. So the only way to win is not play their little game in the first place.

 

If they’re your boss just make sure you’re doing your job right. If they’re picking on you for something non work related then go over their head and if that doesn’t work sue. If they’re family or friends feel free to call them out. Tell them they need to chill or y’all can’t kick it anymore because their attitude makes them no fun. Ask them what’s really going on with them but don’t let them manipulate you with their answer because they’re good for that too.