Are you a Social Sally, Hermit Harry or Middle-ground Marvin?

Well let’s start by stating the obvious, EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. Okay now that we have established that, it would only be logical that everyone, being completely different from each other would tend to have different taste and these differences would shape who they were and how they chose to live their lives. Yup all logical so far. So now if that is indeed true, as we know it to be, it would only make sense that people feel differently about how much time they prefer to spend with others.

Social Sallys: Some people I have noticed do not like being alone at all. Ever. This probably has a lot to do with their upbringing but they tend to loathe being alone and are quite content to be with others all day, every day. They may not understand the concept of other people needing to have time to be alone because for them, the time they spend alone isn’t pleasant. If this is you, and there is no problem with liking to be with others, however you may want to examine why it is you need constant companionship. This may help you to understand that sometimes your significant other or friends need a little space away from you and you won’t feel like its personal. Also, you won’t feel like the other person doesn’t want to be with you or like you just because they take a break from your awesome presence, which may help your personal relationship with your significant other. Why because although you are super awesome, you may be smothering them and that will drive them away no matter how much they love you. Then the more you press the issue, the faster they will want to flee away from you.

Hermit Harry: Hey there . . . how are you doing . . . it’s okay to come outside. The world is a big place and it is scary for some people. Those people are the ones that like to stay pretty secluded and not want a lot of interactions with others. Or maybe their anxiety of social situations keeps them away from trying to make friends and go outside. Well again, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be alone but everyone needs someone else. People are social animals and without the social interactions that make up our communities we would all go stir crazy. So don’t let your fears keep you from enjoying life. Go join a class or find a hobby that you can share with others that have the same interests as you. Enjoy your alone time but once in a while, come out and say hello. You never know what could happen once you leave your threshold.

Middle-ground Marvin: Everyone else in between the extremes well congratulations on finding the middle ground in your social life. You have figured out that sometimes you need space and sometimes you need people. You don’t have any anxieties being alone or with people. There are just some activities you know you would like company with and some you just want to be alone. It’s easy to understand both sides when you are comfortable in both of the settings and maybe you can help your other fellow brethren find the happy medium.

Not everyone stays in each category and that’s just life. Life is a viscous, vibrant, flowing river that has unexpected bends, falls and rocks that will forever keep you on your toes whether it’s alone or with the companionship with others.

(In case you are wondering, I, the Muse, am a Middle-ground Marvin. Sometimes I like being with people. Sometimes I like to hibernate for a few days and do me stuff such as over-analyze my life #SCORPIO, relax, write, yoga, read a book, etc.)